To care for someone is to want to feel a closeness with that person. In effect, we are saying to that person, “I want you to be a part of me; therefore, I will try my best to relate to you in your language and on your level.”
To care is to create unity, but to achieve this oneness, we must be prepared to give up our own level of comfort to create a bridge between us and the other person. If we are unable to bridge the gap—if we can’t move outside of ourselves and our comfort zone, if we can’t see the other person’s needs—then there is no love.